We have to accept the good and the bad as sometimes there just isn’t one without the other. I am grateful for my lowest point as I emerged out of it strong enough to realise what I had to do to survive. But first I came across an old sole who encouraged me to heal he and i ended up staying best friends and i believe i owe him such a lot he looks after us well and has taught me a lot.
Yes i hurt people in the process that were maybe holding me back and enabling me to stay stuck and unwell its a human instinct of survival in the end. So you see guys i don’t write here on my page without the knowing that these difficult times in our lives really are sent to test us. We need to embrace them as tools and learn. Don’t drown in your pain like I did. Grab it by its ugly horns and ask it what can I gain from feeling this way. Don’t be afraid of it. It’s your friend. Your sick and twisted friend. I’m a grandmother now too so I want to be able to share wisdom with my beautiful grandchildren seeing as they won’t be learning to bake from me that’s my oldest daughter’s job she like that stuff! . I don’t bake but I’ll teach them how to protect themselves and help themselves and to take responsibility for their lives and the harder times ahead of them. I want to teach them to blossom as humans at least before i leave this world. I just don’t feel like I’ve had enough time with my kids as having my own growth, learning and life trubbles and being slapped round the face with a wet fish a few times when it’s come to teenagers😳 but it’s all been a part of the process, so we sacrifice distance for wellness and closeness and family and we no longer care about the judgements. All that matters to us is the love we feel for each other. We have an amazingly strong bond and what we’ve gone through has made us a very tight unit, all fiercely protective of one another. We’ve had a couple of speed wobbles along the way as we all were working through our own issues with everything who don’t! But I love what we are and who we are. My children are all very independent people. I sometimes have to stop and pinch myself. I am so proud of their strength. They are my babies. Every night before I go asleep I give gratitude for my children’s love and my life. Life is wonderful and I am so grateful to be able to live mine. I am grateful for it all. Embrace your lives. Embrace the good and the bad. Your happiness will come with your resolve. stay Positive and god bless xxx 🙏💙
♥~”If you have someone who understands you, who is patient with you, who loves you genuinely, who cares about you, who respects you, who is proud of you, who doesn’t take a day without calling or texting you, who never fails to fix time for you, who fears to lose you. Please love that person. Don’t take his or her care & love for granted because such people are very rare to find these days. Don’t let such a person slip out of your hands over minor disagreements. If you are the one in wrong admit and ask for FORGIVENESS. Handle that person with delicacy. Be there for him or her. Do whatever it takes for both of you to last forever. Be open to that person. Don’t be so nagging to such a person. Be trustworthy, faithful and appreciative.~ ♥
Sometimes we spend a chunk of our lives looking back on what was. We are stuck remembering and holding onto something that is no more. We reflect on old issues, remembering things that have happened and moments that have passed. Why do we do this; why is it so important to us that it, in a way, consumes us? What benefit is there from spending so much time reflecting and remembering? Sometimes it seems like our mind wanders there on its own, without our consent. We could be busy, occupied with something else, and all of a sudden we are thinking of our past and once again drawn into a moment that is gone. Why do we do this? Because we haven’t let go of what was, and because we do not fully understand it.
We hold onto moments that have affected us, moments that were hard for us or emotionally difficult, and we also hold onto what we don’t understand. Think about it, how often do you spend time remembering the great moments, the moments where all went well and everything was great? Those memories are wonderful and they should be the ones to pop up so that we can feel good and be happy. But no, this is not what we do, for we understand those moments, nothing confuses us, and therefore they are rarely looked at. We look at the ones we don’t understand because our mind is trying to figure them out. Why was it so hard, why did it hurt us so much, what could I have done differently? Why did I do what I did, or why did someone else do that to me? All these questions are being run through our memories because we are trying to understand and make sense of what happened to us. We may not get the answers, but we continue to try and we fixate on certain moments.
Do you ever find yourself reflecting on the same event over and over? One moment that was hard for you and emotionally trying? You are either trying to make sense of that moment or you haven’t chosen to let it go. For if we understand it and we still replay it over, then we are choosing to be stuck with it. You can look at it in two ways, either you are choosing to hold onto something that no longer exists because you want to or because you don’t understand it. There is one way to solve both of these problems. It is acceptance; it is that pure and that simple. If you want to be at peace with your past, accept it completely. Accept that you don’t understand it and probably never will, and then be okay with that by accepting the idea that you cannot solve it.
By accepting our past, we in turn let it go; we can let go of the moments that hurt us and we still hold onto. By accepting that it did happen, we let it go. We try to avoid this kind of acceptance, we really do, that is why we spend so much time in our past. Acceptance holds a lot of power; it not only releases, but it sends us into a much more clear and open place, one without fear, worry, or hindrances of any kind. By accepting, we are not only setting ourselves free, but we are opening ourselves up. Think about all the space you could have in your mind and in your heart if it were not filled by those trying memories. Think about how much more peaceful you could feel without that one memory that keeps bugging you. By eliminating those trying and hurtful memories, we are allowing ourselves to move on and live life in the present. Accept and be free.
Zoe Young and Adam Benedetto – About the Author:
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Adam Benedetto and Zoe Young are both dedicated to enabling others to reach their full potential in life, to help others release what is holding them back, and to find their true selves. Through years of experience and development, both have sought out the answers we all need to find peace, understand ourselves, and reach enlightenment.