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Twin Lives – A Tale of Heart

A little story: Once there were two children who lived in the inner city in  Dublin. They were twins, a boy and a girl. They had no chance in life. Even as  babies they were addicts – even before they left the womb. Their mother was  addicted to heroin. The father came and went bringing violence and abuse with  him. The children lived in squalor. They had no education, barely enough to eat,  and resorted to thieving to feed their mother’s addiction. At last they were  taken into care but nothing could change the pattern of their childhood. They  ran away and spent long periods on the streets. The boy developed his own drug  habit by the age of twelve. The girl broke away. She experienced abuse in the  guise of help and realized there was no authority under the sun she could trust.  But then as if a voice inside her had spoken she decided she would build her own  life, from the ground up. She managed, with difficulty, to  find a job and a room. After some time she took literacy classes, and  then progressed to night-school. Finally she enrolled in college and gained a  qualification. As the years passed she married, bought a house and had children.  One day she was walking over O’Connell Bridge and she saw a figure hunched  inside a sleeping bag, begging with a plastic cup in front of him. It was her  brother – her twin. He didn’t see her.

The brother never made it. He didn’t have the same opportunities. And yet  their opportunities were exactly the  same.

How is this possible? It wasn’t nature and it certainly wasn’t nurture – both  things had failed them completely. They had no chance in life. So how did one  rise up and the other didn’t?

I have no answer to this. One could look for little sociological clues or  say, perhaps, that the father had managed to spare an ounce more love for the  girl than for the boy. Somehow it feels as if you have to say something: find  some excuse for life.

I pondered over this and came up with one or two contributory elements,  apparently unrelated. The first was that, ‘You only receive what you can cope  with’. I believe this – that life gives you what you can handle, whether it  seems fair or not. It’s not a question of what you deserve but what you can cope  with. This doesn’t quite fit in, in terms of finding explanations, excuses or  justifications. Even if the shoulders are weak they carry the burden up to the  last breath. I could go on and say, the greater the heart the greater the load,  until there is a universe to bear. If a god’s own steps are slowed with the  burden he has to bear, then a human love might step in to help. I think we’re in  this position in life: that we bear the burden we can cope with in order that  the divine can carry the universe. In other words, by bearing the load – often  without any explanation or help – we perform a service for the divine in us.  Even if we don’t know there is any divine there at all.

The second element is the question of heart. In the story the girl seems to  have more ‘heart’ – in the sense of being able to lift herself up – than the  boy. Why is this? Both are like people lying on a bed of burning coals with feet  pressing them down. Why does one have the heart to get up while the other  doesn’t? This is just the original question put in a different form. Is it that  one is born with the heart while the other isn’t? We’ve already established that  both were born addicted. For me the answer is that the heart has to be given. In  this case it has to be given by the divine: the divine returns the help it has  received through the human being carrying its burden. This again brings up the  question, ‘Why does one deserve help and not the other?’

I believe the answer lies in my third element which is: Powerlessness.  Powerlessness soaks the argument out of you. It is the opposite of ‘world’. The  world is power. It has fullness, resources, opportunities. Powerlessness leaves  you like an empty, burnished bowl. It is the only time in life when it’s  justified to say that the human being is an empty vessel which has to be filled  up – when powerlessness has done its work. This is the great theme of tragedy:  catharsis. In drama the point comes when the gods say, ‘It’s done – that’s  enough’. In life it’s the same: the empty bowl can be filled with the flame of ‘heart’ which is the only real power in the world. I think this is the only  explanation why one rises up and the other doesn’t – the words, ‘It is  enough’.

All these ‘contributory elements’ aren’t explanations at all. But neither are  they excuses or justifications. Just try and find a satisfying answer to  problems like this that doesn’t include judgements or excuses for life: ‘He must  have deserved it’; ‘it was his karma’; ‘she had something in her that he  didn’t’; ‘there must have been something different that gave her a chance’. I  would personally like to find comprehensive answers that don’t impose further  burdens. Too often the feet pressing you down on the burning coals have some  connection to religion. And I like answers which belong within the spiritual  nature of the human being. To my mind those will have ‘heart’ and the chance of  personal responsibility.

However, all this circling around the question is just the way my particular  mind works. I would love to hear from anyone who has more experience or  different insights!

Jay  Landar –    About the Author:

Take a walk with author and poet Jay Landar through worlds of fantasy,  inspiration and insight. On the way you will see the people and problems of  today – the trials of the globe we all inhabit as it grows towards a new era.  Find the truth of the inner self and the gentle light it sheds on these  struggles – a light which can only grow stronger. Romance, Truth and Beauty are  the keywords of my articles. Please join me on our walk through these  worlds!

 

A short video with very inspiring words of wisdom.

Power of Subconscious Mind Over Health

Whether we like or not, the brain affects a great deal of our body’s health. The power of subconscious mind is great that sometimes the brain itself has the ability to command the body to heal. Using the power of your brain can help in achieving a healthy body.

In the article “Emotions and Health”, Patricia and Don Deutsch discussed how the mind can control overall health. The article pointed out that there are cases when there are illnesses even if there is nothing wrong with the body. The illness may be due to intense emotions that it affects the functions of the body systems.

Emotional stress really can produce real illness. Doctors term this as psychogenic disorders. In this situation, the mind causes sudden shifts in body chemistry and structure. Physicians already have an idea of emotion-cause sickness but can’t really pinpoint it between physical sicknesses. Both sicknesses have the same symptoms.

What the victims need to do to treat psychogenic disorder is to calm the self and release from all stressful situations. The power of subconscious mind evokes distinct automatic responses from the body. When you see food, you salivate. When someone mentions kinky thoughts or show titillating images, your sex organs begin to rush and your skin begins to feel goosebumps. This automatic response is caused by the brain. Now, it is the same brain that causes these responses that is responsible for psychogenic disorders.

To avoid psychogenic disorders, sufferers must distance themselves from situations that cause them to feel intense emotions. If overworking is the cause, then the victim must either quit the job or make a stress-free arrangement.

You take care of your body by the taking in nutrient-rich foods. You must also take care of your brain by prohibiting abuse. You alone know the limitations of your body. If you feel that you can’t handle a situation, escape from it immediately. If you can’t run from it at the moment, learn to divide the problem or have a ready friend whom you can constantly lean on when you feel down.

When you can, laugh at all times. You may have heard it many times and it is true: laughter is the best medicine. Happy people who in inject their minds with positivity happen to enjoy less or no illnesses. When you feel good inside, the body would show that internal wellness outside.

When you work, concentrate on one subject at a time. When you carry too much task on your sleeves, you lose life and you abuse your mental health. At home, when problems can be done in a positive manner, do it. Things that are solved in a positive mode produces better results that work with whining and crying.

The power of subconscious mind is not negligible Many years ago, the primary concern of men is just how to eat and survive. Today, that has changed. The main concern of humans is how to live in this world in holistic wellness. Mental health is just as important as physical, social, and spiritual health.

by Mike Eagleston

Revenge

Each time that someone inflicts physical or emotional pain upon us there is usually a natural reaction to attack back. While this can give some much needed satisfaction, it is not an open and shut case.

There are different kinds of hurt – harsh or mild, intentional or accidental, apparently justified or not. Sometimes the perpetrator is emotionally ill in someway or extremely stressed threw self torture and may be unaware of the seriousness of the incident, perhaps feeling very much worse than you do. Imagine that the positions are switched for a different perspective on the situation.

It is worth considering the aftermath of revenge. How do you feel now, better or worse? How does the other person feel? Was your reaction too strong or harmful? Perhaps you feel bad and regret it altogether? Could a little discussion have avoided the incident as that is all it takes?

 “To be wronged or robbed is nothing unless you continue to remember it.”

It may seem very stupid to turn the other cheek when we have been hurt, and often it is. However, we should review the situation and consider the facts and effects. Who is being harmed by our anger and retaliation?

Every blaming thought you hold is an obstacle—an obstacle to no success. Think for a moment of someone you may be blaming right now. This person  could be a parent, one of your children, your spouse or partner, a neighbour, your boss, or your employee. Think about how is this obstacle going to effect the rest of the surrounding people most often it’s the children that have to suffer for instants because their mum or dad are being hurt, all should be taken in to consideration . We cause ourselves more grief when we try to get even, isn’t this another reason to at least review our actions?

 “He who seeks revenge should remember to dig two graves.” – Chinese proverb

SEE ALSO:

Is He/She Abusive?-  You’re not Crazy. Learn the disease. Stop the abuse.

Physical pain doesn’t phase many people…its the mental that creates such problems…

What makes some people dearer~

What makes some people dearer is not just the happiness that we feel when we meet them but the emptiness we feel when they are not around us.
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