When you are sick and go to the doctor, the doctor never
says “Here are three pills – one for your spouse, one for your boss, and one
for your mother-in-law. Once all of them take their medication, you will be
just fine!” As absurd as this sounds, this is exactly what many people attempt
to do in their relationships – to fix others so they can feel better. “The only
way we can feel better is by working on ourselves”.
What is your experience of life? Do you experience life as a set of random events in which you have little say and control? If you do, you form part of the majority of people who live as victims of life, having life happen to them. In a previous article we touched on the fact that although most people tend to live this way, there is a growing group of people who, instead of struggling to make a living, are having fun designing their lives. What makes the difference between these two groups of people? Is the one group having more luck than the other? The reality is that luck has nothing to do with it. Instead, the second group, having fun designing their lives, have discovered one of the greatest secrets to a happy and successful life – the fact that instead of simply being a set of random events, every aspect of life is governed and its outcome determined by the understanding and implementation of the Universal Laws and Principles. As much as there are natural, physical laws that govern the order of the universe such as the Law of Gravity, there are Universal, Cosmic or Spiritual Laws and Principles that govern the order of life. In this article we will examine some of these Laws and Principles and the role each play in determine the outcome of life.
Before we look at these Laws and Principles, it is important to understand what we mean by these terminologies.
Law – a binding rule. There is nothing you can do to change it. It is immutable. Violating a law contains inherent harm, suffering or punishment. Obeying a law contains inherent benefit, reward or blessing. The suffering we experience as a result of violating these Laws should serve as feed-back; lessons that we need to learn in order to change what we do in order to change the outcome.
Principle – the underlying cause of an outcome. If you do something a certain way, you can virtually predict the outcome.
These Laws and Principles are not intended to dictate to, or control you. They are intended to inform and enlighten you as to the way things work. You also need to be careful not to look at the workings of these Laws and Principles as purely mechanical. Your will, desires and attitude also play a role in the creation of your life circumstances, situations and events, as well as influence those of others. The purpose of this article is to inspire you to look at life in a new way and to assist during some of the more uncertain times in your life, when you need answers to help provide some solutions.
It is important to understand that the application or implementation of each Universal Law activates an inherent Principle. The outcome of your life is directly determined by your knowledge and implementation of these Universal Laws and Principles. “You will know the truth, and the truth will make you free.
Although we cannot necessarily arrange the Universal Laws and Principles in order of importance, it is safe to say that the Law of Cause and Effect is seen as the most basic of all Universal Laws. The Law of Cause and Effect implies that nothing exists or is experienced independently or capriciously. Every situation, circumstance or event was created by a cause. Every cause creates an effect. The only way you can bring a change in whatever it is that you are experiencing, which is the effect, is to change the cause.
Following is a list of some of the Universal Laws that if correctly applied and implemented will activate their inherent principles which in turn will create causes leading to effects – the situations, circumstances or events in your life.
- The Law of Mind – The condition of your mind or consciousness (thoughts, will and emotions), positive or negative, will determine the condition of your life, positive or negative. A positive, empowering mind will create positive cause leading to positive effect, in turn determining the quality of the situations, circumstances or events in your life.
- The Law of Attraction – Your thoughts attract to you those things that correspond with the quality of your thoughts, positive or negative. Positive thoughts attract positive situations, circumstances or events. Negative thoughts attract negative situations, circumstances or events.
- The Law of Thought – You become what you think. Whatever thoughts you entertain over a period of time (in your conscious mind) will eventually settle as beliefs (in your subconscious mind) and will control the outcome of your life. The only way to change disempowering beliefs into empowering beliefs is to discontinue keeping your mind busy with disempowering thoughts and deliberately start thinking empowering thoughts.
- The Law of Belief – Whatever your belief about anything (in your subconscious mind) will eventually create according to that belief (according to the Law of Attraction). Essentially, your beliefs consist of your internal dialogue – what you inadvertently say to yourself about the situation – and your imagination – the picture you inadvertently hold in your mind about the situation. One way in which you can become aware of your beliefs is by observing your reality and paying attention to what comes out of your mouth.
- The Law of Expectation – Whatever you expect (created by the belief in your subconscious mind) will create according to the expectation. Do not confuse expectation (which is subconscious) with wants and wishes. Wants and wishes very seldom come true as they are usually based on a sense of lack, which according to the Law of Attraction will create more lack. Every person has expectations, whether of something positive or negative, creating circumstance, situations or events accordingly.
- The Law of Acceptance – There is a saying, “whatever you resist will persist”. The reason for this is that whatever you focus on will remain, as focus feeds any situation with energy. Acceptance, not to be confused with capitulation or denial, but a conscious decision to accept the fact that something is the way that it is without attributing value to it, takes the focus off the situation, making it subject to change.
- The Law of Focus – Whatever you focus on in your thinking, positive or negative, is what you continue feeding energy. The object of your focus becomes magnified and will remain. Instead, acknowledge the presence of the situation with the understanding that it is subject to change and move your focus on what you desire. The moment you remove you focus from the negative situation, you allow for change in the situation. By focusing on what you desire, according to the Law of Attraction, you will create more of what you are focusing on.
- The Law of Forgiveness or Release – Unforgiveness holds you to the person or situation you won’t forgive or release – you are the one that suffers. Forgiveness simply implies letting go of the emotion attached to the issue. You know that you have forgiven when you can think of the person or event without feeling the negative emotion.
- The Law of Love – Love (unconditional acceptance) is always reciprocal. The more you love, not necessarily only the experiencing of the emotion, but the acceptance of the person as created in the image and likeness of God (separating the persons’ actions from their being), the more you will be loved in the same way.
- The Law of Gratitude – Whatever you are grateful for for, you will experience more of. The Laws of Focus and Attraction work together in this instance. Starting the day with an Attitude of Gratitude sets the mood for a positive experience fo the rest of the day, in spite of perceived negative situations.
The million dollar question should now be, “how do I apply and implement these Laws and Principles?” In another article we will learn how to do just that. For now, it is important to develop a knowledge and understanding of the Laws and Principles mentioned above. It is important to understand that there are many, many more of these Laws and Principles, literally for every aspect of life. Once learnt and implemented, you will no longer feel a victim, but become a designer of your life. Enjoy the journey!
John A. Smith – About the Author:
I am a public speaker and teacher as well as mentor in the field of recovery and personal development.I can be contacted at firstname.lastname@example.org. Website http//.co.za/
“Life is not fair!” Have you ever heard that comment before? Have you ever said that yourself? Is it normal to sometimes feel that way? I would dare to say that very few people have never felt that way. However, because we feel a certain way about something, does that mean it is true?
Let us examine the key words in this statement, namely “life” and “fair”. We glibly use the word “life” but do we understand what it really means? What is life? Most people understand that to mean “my life”, that which I experience on a daily basis, for which many blame circumstances outside of themselves. For many, life happens to them, like an event that they have little or no control over. Many experience a sense of helplessness, being a victim to life. However, “my life” or in a truer sense, my “life situation” or “life experience” is only a part of the equation of what life really is.
It is important to understand that reality (that which is) consists of more than one dimension. There are two dimensions to reality, making life dual dimensional. Firstly there is objective reality, that which is outside of myself, determined by immutable universal laws and principles, which in turn are determined by God/Infinite Being/Universal Consciousness/Creative Energy or whatever terminology you wish to use. I have no control over objective reality but can only submit to and apply the universal laws and principles, which contain inherent reward for their observance and application or inherent punishment for their violation, and that in turn determine the outcomes of my reality.
Secondly, there is subjective reality, which essentially is my life situation or my life experience. As much as objective reality is determined by immutable universal laws and principles outside of my control, subjective reality, my life situation and life experience, is determined by my level of understanding and application of the universal laws and principles, which is within my control. As mentioned earlier, many people feel out of control of and a victim to their subjective reality. However, could it be that I am more responsible for and in control of my life situation or life experience than what I have been conditioned to believe
Consider the above for a moment. If it is true that objective reality is determined by immutable universal laws and principles and that subjective reality is determined by my application of these laws and principles, does that mean that subjective reality is created by me? Does that mean that there is then no real victim? Can I then still say that life is unfair? What if I did not know that these laws and principles existed, much less knew how to apply them correctly? What if I did not know that I was influencing subjective reality?
Let us consider the questions above. It is important to understand that ignorance of a law does not nullify the law. Whether or not I am ware of a law, violating it will still lead to specific consequences. The biblical statement, “My people are destroyed for a lack of knowledge” implies that ignorance is never an excuse. Realistically speaking, the only reason for ignorance is not taking the time gain the information. Information and knowledge are more readily available now than ever before. The same biblical principle regarding ignorance implies that ignorance is the result of a rejection of knowledge. The more I take responsibility for acquiring the knowledge I need, the less I will suffer the consequences of violating the universal laws and principles. The result will be experiencing more of the benefits of correctly applying these laws and principles.
Another question may be, “What about circumstances, situations and events that are outside of my control, that were not directly caused by me?” At the risk of opening up a can of worms and eliciting violent reactions, there are those that believe that, if not directly created by us, we still attract every circumstance, situation or event in our lives. Safe to say for now, it is important to understand that whatever I encounter in my life, I still have the power as to how I react or respond. Even in these instances there are specific universal laws and principles that will determine the outcomes or effects of these on my subjective reality. Either way, I am still responsible, if not for what happens, then the way in which I experience what happens in my life. Ultimately, the way I think and consequently feel about what happens in my life and the value I ascribe, will determine the long-term impact, positive or negative.
The million dollar question at this stage must be, “What on earth are these universal laws and principles? How do I apply them?” The next article will deal with some of the most fundamental laws and principles that have the greatest impact on our lives. For now, develop the awareness and understanding that in reality our lives are not simply a series of random and capricious events, but more a practice, for which we need to take greater responsibility.
John A. Smith– About the Author:
I am a public speaker and teacher as well as mentor in the field of recovery and personal development. I can be contacted at email@example.com. Website: http//www.ttk.co.za/
When you are sick and go to the doctor, the doctor never