I must not fear. Fear is the mind-killer. Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration. I will face my fear. I will permit it to pass over me and through me. And when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path. Where the fear has gone there will be nothing. Only I will remain. – Frank Herbert
~I am disgusted when women talk about other women. That is called self-hating. …When a woman hates on another woman, that hater not only degrades herself but also slips down further from the woman she’s hating on. Ladies, A REAL WOMAN KNOWS HER WORTH THEREFORE SHE DOES NOT NEED TO ENVY OR HATE, JUDGE OR BE JEALOUS OF ANOTHER WOMAN. Have some pride and respect. We must uplift other women instead of bringing them down. Unless YOU ARE A SAINT or GOD, you have no right to judge ANYONE. And who are you to judge? Oh, your educated, and you have a degree but WITHOUT CLASS . An educated woman DOES NOT need to hate on anyone. So if you think having a piece of paper hanging on your wall, or having a high-paying job gives you the right to hate, judge and talk about another woman, then you have wasted all that money and time you spent on getting that piece of paper because OBVIOUSLY you haven’t learned a damn thing.
You can pay for education but you can NEVER BUY CLASS. Please look in the mirror and CLASSIFY AND CLAIM YOURSELF AS A DAMN HATER and get help soon. Hatred is a disease. A DISEASE OF THE SOUL. Please Oh please get some damn help. I ONLY FEEL SORRY FOR YOU. When you judge another woman, you define WHO YOU REALLY ARE and I hope your man realizes that!
I DON’T HATE YOU. I HAVE NO REASON TO HATE ANYONE. YOU DON’T KNOW ME AND I DON’T KNOW YOU. Please spend some time working on yourselves so you do not need to hate on anyone. You can have the prettiest face and the sexiest body, still does not give you the right to judge or hate and to me, your ugly personality plus your diseased soul equals “the ugliest woman ever” Actually it gose for man too. SHAME ON YOU! Good luck with that!
- Full of hatred. (joannewellington.wordpress.com)
I have heard people say this many times: “I will never forgive them for what they did!”, as if by saying this they are causing harm to the person who hurt them. The reality is that they are doing the harm to themselves alone. As defined in the dictionary, when you forgive someone you “cease to feel resentment”. Resentment, along with anger, hate, jealousy and other negative emotions, will eat you up inside and can cause actual physical ailments and disease.
Often times after we have been emotionally, physically or spiritually hurt, the pain quickly turns to anger and resentment. We go over the episodes of the past in our heads, re-living each painful moment again and again like a never-ending nightmare. Each time we do this the old feelings surface and we once again feel the gut-wrenching pain the person caused us. By doing this we are living in the past instead of the present, and it can be a dangerous thing for everyone involved but the majority of danger falls right into your lap.
Many people feel that forgiveness is a gift. I agree! It is a gift, but not to the one you are forgiving. The gift is to yourself and what a wondrous gift it can be.
By forgiving the people who have hurt you in the past you set yourself free from the chains of resentment and other harmful emotions running rampant through your mind, body and spirit. By forgiving you are taking away the control the other person has over you. You are empowering yourself and growing by spiritual leaps and bounds. You will heal deep-rooted pain that perhaps you thought was gone a long time ago but has survived, living under all of the resentment that you have held onto for so long. By forgiving you are one step closer to your journey of self-growth and healing.
Some of you are on a journey of helping Creator to give healing to others who need it. The first step on your journey is to heal yourself. This can be very difficult as well as painful but the upside to the difficulties and pain is the end result, which is very rewarding indeed. It will be rewarding for both you as a healer and for those who you will help to heal.
I have heard of horrific and tragic stories relating to the suffering that people on this earth have gone through and like many of you, I have often asked how Creator could place anyone in such situations. The truth of the matter is that many people who have lived such suffering and painful lives, or have survived horrific events go on to become wonderful healers on this earth, doing Creator’s work.
They start foundations, organizations, become therapists, doctors, authors of self-help and spiritual books, host talk shows. The list goes on.
So perhaps this was Creator’s plan all along and we should be thankful for many of the sufferings that have taken place and that we have to endure. Without them many people would not be who they are today – stronger, healthier, more forgiving, more helpful to others, more loving.
I once held on to a great amount of anger towards someone who had caused me pain for many years. One day a spiritual healer asked me to surround this person in light and send him love. I looked at the spiritual healer as if she were crazy! How DARE she ask me to do such a thing! How did she even think I would be capable of forgiving someone who had hurt me so bad?! I tried to remain open to what she was telling me, but honestly did not believe I could go through with it.
Then she said something to me that grabbed my attention – “By forgiving him and sending him loving thoughts, you will free yourself and he will no longer have such a great hold on you”. As I drove home after speaking with her, I thought of this sentence many times and just the idea of the freedom from the pain sounded so joyous and peaceful, yet far away at the same time.
About a week later I quietly sat down and asked Creator to help me do what needed to be done. I asked Creator to surround this man in his light, and then sent loving thoughts to him along with my forgiveness. Most importantly, I forgave myself for the choices I had made during those years, and took responsibility for them as well. The pain that I had been holding for so long in my heart slowly poured out as I wept tears of sadness and joy at the same time. That day I freed myself from the chains of resentment and anger, from the pain I had endured for so many years, and from the control of a man who would no longer control anything about me, or within me…. I had healed myself with help from Creator, and from the spiritual healer who with one sentence changed me, and healed me. I am thankful to her and to my experience, for it has made me who I am today.
The next time you think of the act of forgiveness, try not to only see the other person(s) as the only recipient. for you are the most important recipient involved, and you are well worth it. ~ Carl Ven ~
- Healers and Lightworkers: 5 Keys for Healing at a High Vibration (joannewellington.wordpress.com)
- Forgiving, Forgetting, & Boundary Setting (mediumsworld.wordpress.com)
The good news is that whatever the life situation or whatever life throws at us, we can always turn it around once we decide to make it happen, my time now has now come to say bye bye for a while from blogging as I have said all I need to say for now. I only hope you decide to have a more happy and fulfilling life the way you deserve. Wishing you all a luscious, sensual, warm, loving, joyful and restful life ~A Path To
Enlightenment… god bless you and take care Joanne! xxx
Here are some last tips to orchestrate the turn around :
1) Believe it is possible to succeed
The only real danger is your belief that there is no solution for your problem –
that you are indeed helpless. You need to first remove this belief if you want
to make any progress. The fact is that all power to find that solution lies
within you – you are just not seeing the solution yet.
2) Your past is not equal to your future
Your future has got nothing to do with the past. By taking correct action in the
present moment, you can create anything you want. Learn from the past but do
not get stuck in it.
3) Practice Persistence
Success takes persistence. People who stick around longer without giving up open themselves to success more than people who give up easily when they fail a few times. Successful people never stop trying.
4) Do it better each day
While persistence is good, one needs to always look for better ways to solve the same problem. Get creative and see how you can solve the same problem in a better way, that you did not attempt yesterday.
5) There are no real failures
Each failure is a stepping stone to future success. Failures brings us much needed knowledge and experience that was lacking the last time around. If the correct lessons are learnt and applied from past experiences, success if not far away.
6) Consult with an expert
It is good to get some fresh ideas from other people who have experience and skill dealing with the challenges you are facing. For example, some relationships that you could not improve by yourself for over a decade can be turned around
in a couple of months with help from a skilled relationship coach. The same goes with other areas of life such as your career, health and finances.
7) Stay positive and appreciative of what you do have
Just because one area of your life is not working the way you want, do not fool yourself into believing that your entire life has gone haywire. When we are focused on what is lacking, we just tend not to pay enough attention to what is working. Practice genuine appreciation of the areas of your life that are doing great. Whatever the situation, each one of us has a lot to be grateful for, that some others may not be blessed with.
8) Know that this too shall pass
No problem remains forever. Most of us have faced problems that perhaps felt like the end of the world many years back, that hardly cross our mind at this time. With continued right effort, you will find the solution much sooner than you think.
- Feeling overwhelmed and helpless? (joannewellington.wordpress.com)
- Know The Power Of Letting Go (joannewellington.wordpress.com)
- Self-esteem is the set of beliefs that you have about yourself. (mediumsworld.wordpress.com)