I have heard people say this many times: “I will never forgive them for what they did!”, as if by saying this they are causing harm to the person who hurt them. The reality is that they are doing the harm to themselves alone. As defined in the dictionary, when you forgive someone you “cease to feel resentment”. Resentment, along with anger, hate, jealousy and other negative emotions, will eat you up inside and can cause actual physical ailments and disease.
Often times after we have been emotionally, physically or spiritually hurt, the pain quickly turns to anger and resentment. We go over the episodes of the past in our heads, re-living each painful moment again and again like a never-ending nightmare. Each time we do this the old feelings surface and we once again feel the gut-wrenching pain the person caused us. By doing this we are living in the past instead of the present, and it can be a dangerous thing for everyone involved but the majority of danger falls right into your lap.
Many people feel that forgiveness is a gift. I agree! It is a gift, but not to the one you are forgiving. The gift is to yourself and what a wondrous gift it can be.
By forgiving the people who have hurt you in the past you set yourself free from the chains of resentment and other harmful emotions running rampant through your mind, body and spirit. By forgiving you are taking away the control the other person has over you. You are empowering yourself and growing by spiritual leaps and bounds. You will heal deep-rooted pain that perhaps you thought was gone a long time ago but has survived, living under all of the resentment that you have held onto for so long. By forgiving you are one step closer to your journey of self-growth and healing.
Some of you are on a journey of helping Creator to give healing to others who need it. The first step on your journey is to heal yourself. This can be very difficult as well as painful but the upside to the difficulties and pain is the end result, which is very rewarding indeed. It will be rewarding for both you as a healer and for those who you will help to heal.
I have heard of horrific and tragic stories relating to the suffering that people on this earth have gone through and like many of you, I have often asked how Creator could place anyone in such situations. The truth of the matter is that many people who have lived such suffering and painful lives, or have survived horrific events go on to become wonderful healers on this earth, doing Creator’s work.
They start foundations, organizations, become therapists, doctors, authors of self-help and spiritual books, host talk shows. The list goes on.
So perhaps this was Creator’s plan all along and we should be thankful for many of the sufferings that have taken place and that we have to endure. Without them many people would not be who they are today – stronger, healthier, more forgiving, more helpful to others, more loving.
I once held on to a great amount of anger towards someone who had caused me pain for many years. One day a spiritual healer asked me to surround this person in light and send him love. I looked at the spiritual healer as if she were crazy! How DARE she ask me to do such a thing! How did she even think I would be capable of forgiving someone who had hurt me so bad?! I tried to remain open to what she was telling me, but honestly did not believe I could go through with it.
Then she said something to me that grabbed my attention – “By forgiving him and sending him loving thoughts, you will free yourself and he will no longer have such a great hold on you”. As I drove home after speaking with her, I thought of this sentence many times and just the idea of the freedom from the pain sounded so joyous and peaceful, yet far away at the same time.
About a week later I quietly sat down and asked Creator to help me do what needed to be done. I asked Creator to surround this man in his light, and then sent loving thoughts to him along with my forgiveness. Most importantly, I forgave myself for the choices I had made during those years, and took responsibility for them as well. The pain that I had been holding for so long in my heart slowly poured out as I wept tears of sadness and joy at the same time. That day I freed myself from the chains of resentment and anger, from the pain I had endured for so many years, and from the control of a man who would no longer control anything about me, or within me…. I had healed myself with help from Creator, and from the spiritual healer who with one sentence changed me, and healed me. I am thankful to her and to my experience, for it has made me who I am today.
The next time you think of the act of forgiveness, try not to only see the other person(s) as the only recipient. for you are the most important recipient involved, and you are well worth it. ~ Carl Ven ~
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Want to discover how you can ‘Shine your Light’ brighter and reach your full potential as a Healer or Lightworker?
As a professional healer I am often approached by other healers wanting to find ways to heal their own wounds and self-imposed limitations, so that they can ‘step out of their own way’ and really get on with using their healing gifts and knowledge for the benefit of each other, humanity and the planet.
I have observed 5 key areas that healers and lightworkers need to address to reach their full potential and do their healing work at a much higher vibration.
1. Become part of a community of like-minded people
Too often, as a healer or lightworker, you may feel isolated in your family or social network as being ‘different’, possibly even a little bit ‘weird’! Many times that naturally high sensitivity leads to shying away from others and a tendency to introversion. Nurturing, supportive relationships can seem difficult to find. You may fear authentic expression of yourself for fear of ridicule or persecution (something which may have been a very real threat to you in previous lifetimes as a healer).
I have always believed in the importance of creating a safe space and networking opportunities, both personally and via the wonder of the internet, so that likeminded souls can really open up and talk freely together about issues that really interest them – a place, real or virtual, where others really ‘get’ where they are coming from and can engage in deep, meaningful conversations and learn from each other.
The benefits of such a community of like-minded healers can be far-reaching. Not only are you actively-engaged in the like-minded community, you can be happier and more confident about fully expressing yourself as a healer or lightworker, your vibration naturally raises, allowing you to do your healing work at a higher level.
2. Strengthen your connection to Source
Some of the ways I recommend are by spending more time Being than Doing, meditating more, being still and going deep within. Feel and write down daily in a journal everything you feel Gratitude for. Spend more time surrounded by the sights, sounds and aromas of Nature to feel your connection to the Divine strengthen. Whatever gives you pure, natural joy brings you closer to the Divine and ignites that Divine spark within you.
3. Put yourself as your number 1 priority
Healers and lightworkers are hard-wired to give to others! In order to continue to give to others at the highest level, you must first give to yourself and learn how to receive. Fill up your own cup first that you may give to others from the overflow.
You must be willing to do whatever it takes to care for yourself and to move beyond your own blocks and limitations, either by self-healing or in a therapeutic environment. Self-care must cover physical, mental, emotional and spiritual needs. As a healer or lightworker you are probably already good at addressing your spiritual needs and clearing the higher chakras, but how much physical exercise do you get and how nutritious is your diet? I think you get what I mean….
Balance and attention to self-care in all areas of your life is necessary to be performing healing and lightwork at the highest levels.
4. Develop high self-esteem
The archetype of Chiron, the Wounded Healer, is well-known and may be applicable to you. Often the best healers are those who have developed deep levels of compassion for others through their own personal life traumas.
If you struggle financially, have vague feelings of ‘not being good enough’, of having to ‘prove’ yourself as worthy or you hold back from speaking your truth, then chances are your self-esteem could do with a major boost. 85% of people suffer from low self-esteem in one or more areas of life.
This is a tough one for many people – including healers – who feel that ‘stewing’ in unforgiveness and anger towards those you perceived as having wronged you, somehow is getting revenge on them! The only person who is really getting hurt is you, maybe leading you to physical dis-ease. Often the offender has forgotten about the incident or never realized there was a problem in the first place.
Let it go! The gift of forgiveness is for yourself, not for the person who wronged you. Are you willing to hold your vibration low and risk serious diseases such as cancer just to be ‘right’? Forgive yourself, too, for having allowed yourself to be caught up in the drama for so long.
Perhaps more so than in any other occupation, as healers and lightworkers you need to constantly be working to clear your own physical, mental, emotional and spiritual blocks and limiting beliefs. Focusing on the 5 keys above is imperative for you to reach your highest vibration and potential to do your healing and lightwork. You owe it to your self. You owe it to the planet. As Mahatma Ghandi said, “Be the change you want to see.” Shine your light brighter to raise the consciousness of humanity and for planetary healing.
Michelle Mayur – About the Author:
Michelle Mayur is the ‘Healer for Healers’ and the visionary founder of the Heal the Healer global community. She helps healers and lightworkers reach more of their healing potential to raise the consciousness of humanity. To receive your FREE healing meditation audio and become a FREE Member of the Heal the Healer community of healers and lightworkers, visit www.heal-the-healer.com. Copyright 2011 Michelle Mayur
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May we offer our deepest sympathy and send out our prayers for the devastation in Japan and surrounding countries, may those affected find the best peace expected in such a tragic situation. May god and archangel Raphael bring home safely and painlessly those who are no longer with us ,and as a group may we offer up all of our energy in the form of love & healing to those who are left to pick up the pieces of their torn apart hearts, homes,families and lives. This is so sad it is making me cry. Please everyone take a minute to send as much healing as your body can possibly offer and call on all those in spirit to channel through any healing or help that can be given god bless . xxx
Written by Joanne for Mediums World
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