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Spread love not fear be the best you can be!

“Every time you abuse a child, every time you hit a child, every time you swear at a child,every time you put fear into a child. Every time you are negative with a child. What are you Educating them into?

You are not educating them into them into “Love” you are not educating them into feeling good and liking themselves, you are not educating them into feeling confident and positive you may as well just rip all their  friends away from them before they start making them as that is what you’re doing And by god friends are important as a child. What you are doing is crushing their spirit with your negativity, anger, lack of trust and fear and insecurities.You are crushing them with the fact, that YOU don’t really like YOURSELF and are afraid to be REAL!! You are crushing within them the wonder of Life.

You are educating them to fear REAL LOVE AND INTIMACY with other Human Beings because YOU, yourself are afraid of real Love and Intimacy. And no where is this more apparent then in the relationships between Men and Women. We are not civilised, look what we do to each other and then call it “Love?” Love is not an “Intellectual” exercise. It is a state of being”and it is real when we except it for real it is our job our responsibility to keep our children loved, safe, secure and fed well at all times till they are ready  to leave and maybe do the same with their children, every action and word has a reaction.

Really think about the kinds of values you would want to install in your children. The brain of a child is like a little sponge, it will soak everything up, hold it for as long as it can and then it will wring itself back out. If you want what comes back out of their sponge to be clean for them, then guess what? You need to be completely accountable for your actions.

If you are not ready for near total accountability, you are not ready to have children.  I am a capable human being but there have certainly been times where I have literally curled up into a corner and had myself good, heart-wrenching sobs. In those moments I felt there was no possible way I could continue to go on doing what needed to be done but the important thing “never” stop questioning, because curiosity has its own reason for existing .

Children,unfortunately do not come with “time-outs,” however, their needs must be met. In those times I have always managed to pick myself back up and continue to be the capable human being my children deserve and have helped make me. Don’t worry that children never listen to you; worry that they “are always watching you”! and If you have never been hated by your child at some point you have never been a parent.

I have six children and my son’s and daughters know that I may get mad at them from time to time. I may not like some of the things they choose to do, but they know my love for them can never and will never waver no matter what and where ever life may lead them. I will always be right there and this will last the rest of my life,.. it isn’t like a pet where you make a commitment for upwards of the next 18 years tops. A lot of people have this vague notion that once a child turns 18 a parents job is done. If you’re one of them I suggest getting a pet instead of having child .. Look making the decision to have a child is momentous. It is to decide forever to have your heart go walking around outside your body.

Like I said before please Really think about the kinds of values you would want to install in your children.. if you think about it our story’s are  being written with each new day where you have a chance to collect yourself and prioritise with what is most important to you and your children. Changing your frame of mind for the better can bring wonderful new changes that little bit closer, taking it as an opportunity to reinvent yourself and find a passionate happier life that is right in front of you.  take care of each new day as you make your countless choices .

Copyright © 2010,2015 Joanne Wellington All Rights Reserved.

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Being Human …Ten rules.

Ten rules of being human.

1. You will receive a body. You may like it or hate it, but it’s yours to keep for the entire period.
2. You will learn lessons. You are enrolled in a full-time informal school called, “life.”
3. There are no mistakes, only lessons. Growth is a process of trial, error, and experimentation. The “failed” experiments are as much a part of the process as the experiments that ultimately “work.”
4. Lessons are repeated until they are learned. A lesson will be presented to you in various forms until you have learned it. When you have learned it, you can go on to the next lesson.
5. Learning lessons does not end. There’s no part of life that doesn’t contain its lessons. If you’re alive, that means there are still lessons to be learned.
6. “There” is no better a place than “here.” When your “there” has become a “here”, you will simply obtain another “there” that will again look better than “here.”
7. Other people are merely mirrors of you. You cannot love or hate something about another person unless it reflects to you something you love or hate about yourself.
8. What you make of your life is up to you. You have all the tools and resources you need. What you do with them is up to you. The choice is yours.
9. Your answers lie within you. The answers to life’s questions lie within you. All you need to do is look, listen, and trust.
10. You will forget all this.

by Cherie Carter-Scott

Mother Nature, Mother Earth , Tragedies.

Just look at the tragedies that are happening Japans Earthquake being one of them.

Mother Nature, Mother Earth . . . terms we use so frequently, but do we fully understand and embrace the meaning behind these words . .

Earth is a very important part of our lives. Most of us wouldn’t think of polluting our bodies would we?, yet we are polluting our planet by misuse and overuse of our natural resources. As responsible individuals we should at least do what we can to help reduce, reuse, and recycle what we can as a first step.

We are not completely to blame; we inherited a polluted Earth, but we can do something to ensure that our children can grow up in a cleaner, safer planet than ourselves. Don’t ever let someone get away with saying “what can I do, I am only one person”. Each and every person can do a lot, and you can influence others to do something as well.

I  want to try something new there are thousands of people that visit this site but yet very rarely leave a comment which is a shame as the more comments and views put forwards the more inspiring or interesting it can get.

Instead of me putting a row of tips on what we can do to help make mother earth a better and safer planet…. Iwant to ask “you the viewers” to leave a tip of your own in the comment box about what we could do to help our planet so other viewers can also read and be inspired… it would be bitterly disappointing to see no comments at all. So anyone that does leave a posting wow for caring about our planet and wow for taking part.

Positivity is free here for the taking, inspiration awaits only to be recognized and confidence is always encouraged, You are safe to like or comment anything on these page’s without the worry of getting judged that’s why this blog was created only for people who are inspired to do better and move forwards through life and help others I look forward to hearing from you with thanks.

Written by Joanne for Mediums World

Copyright © 2010,2015 Joanne Wellington All Rights Reserved.

Listening is different from hearing.

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Listening to the world around you is not often a skill that is consciously practiced. Nevertheless, it is a skill that is definitely worth cultivating. Active and engaged listening can help you to better understand other people, the interactions of society and the world around you. The more you listen, the more you learn

Listening is an essential part of communication, and it is different from hearing. Being a good and patient listener helps you not only solve many problems at work or home, but also to see the world through the eyes of others, thereby opening your understanding and enhancing your capacity for empathy. In addition, you learn a lot from listening. As simple as listening to and acknowledging other people may seem, doing it well, particularly when disagreements arise, it does takes sincere effort care and lots of practice and patience.

One most important to remember… Do not interrupt with what you feel or think about the topic being discussed. Wait for another person to ask your opinion before interrupting the flow of discussion. Active listening requires the listener to shelve his or her own opinions temporarily, and await appropriate breaks in the conversation for summarizing. Abstain from giving direct advice or opinion. Instead, let him or her talk the situation out and find his or her own way to the end of their conversation.

Written by Joanne for Mediums World

Copyright © 2010,2015 Joanne Wellington All Rights Reserved.

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