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Human leech problem…Is the process becoming one-sided?

“The Human Leech is whiny”. It thrives on pity and sympathy. The Leech will do anything to gain the sympathy of those in its surroundings, and hurt those that are not, even if it has to make itself look sad and pathetic. The leech is persistent they will wear you down It’s  just the way they are unfortunatley  for this lifetime and probably Meany more  depending on what mind set they are at now!

” GET RID OF THEM!!! You can’t help people that don’t want to be helped”

Human leeches are those people who continually want more from us no matter how much we give them. Yet they refuse to reciprocate our efforts in any appropriate or meaningful ways.

Leeching possibilities are diverse and endless. It could be a grown daughter constantly asks us to baby-sit  or to continue to provide for them as you did when children and is incensed when we decline. A neighbour routinely needs us to perform favours or lend him tools, or even expect you to abide by their rules of living yet never offers to feed our cat when we’re away. A co-worker is always happy to join us for happy hour, but disappears when it’s his turn to pick up the tab, in some cases they may offer to be nice to you in some way lend you something and expect a dedicated relationship for there good deed or expect an awful lot form it this is not in there good will its to trap you.

Whatever the circumstances, the result is always the same. Energy in the relationship travels one way. Recipients of leeching feel resentful. They feel they’re being taken for a ride. They long to stop the drain on their time, emotions and finances. Yet they’re frequently at a loss about how to stanch the flow.

Leeching creates a subtle stress that’s often unrecognized until it’s out of control. Many report feeling guilty saying “no” to the leeches’ demands. They dread hurting the chronic takers’ feelings. They worry about damaging the relationship. In truth, leeches don’t respect us anyway not in any way. Our relationships are contorted at best. They only want what we can give them. When the supply runs low, they happily move on to someone else.

Most of us are happy to help others. We’re eager to chip in wherever we can. We have no problem hosting the softball pasta feed on our patio or buying groceries for an ill friend. But if that giving goes on for an extended period of time or if our efforts are underappreciated, hostility starts to creep in. The process becomes one-sided. We know we’re being used.

Of course, sometimes the involved parties aren’t on an equal footing. They can’t give back as much as they get. A frail mother who has broken her hip is going to require on-going attention from her middle-aged offspring. She can’t possibly reciprocate their behaviour.

In those situations, it’s necessary for the adult children to care for the parent, making sure that she is safe and adequately cared for. Hopefully their own children will follow in their footsteps and be kind and attentive as their folks age. It’s important to remember that leeches can’t suck us dry unless we let them. Yes, leeches have poor boundaries. They don’t understand proper protocol. They see no problem continually asking for favours as long as others are willing to comply.

But they must have willing targets who cave in to their insatiable needs. They’re adept at scanning the emotional waters to learn who is willing to give them what they want. Then, once they’ve located a potential host spot, they attach their suckers and refuse to let go.

 Tips for losing human leeches

Want to rid your life of leeches once and for all? Try these techniques:

Recognize leeching behavior. Does someone always make demands on your money or time? Are they unappreciative about what you do? Do you feel resentful about what they’re asking? Do you have trouble setting limits on your relationship? Then you’re involved with a human leech. Do something about it now!

• Avoid overgiving. Leeches prey on people who make giving a way of life. Yes, charity is honorable. But don’t chronically overextend. Give only what you comfortably can. Save ample emotional and physical resources for yourself.

• Decide on your personal boundaries. Leeches want you to feel pressured so you’ll say “yes” to their every demand. Instead, back away. Say, “I’ll let you know tomorrow.” Next, go home and analyze what you really want to do. Remember, you’re in charge.

• Practice the 2+1+1 rule. Have trouble setting limits with others? Use this sure-fire ploy: When asked to do something you don’t want to do, say two positive statements (i.e. “Thanks for thinking of me. You know I’d love to help.”), followed by your limit (“But I’m not able to volunteer at this time.”) and one more positive statement (“Hope the event goes well.”).

• Quiet guilt. You fret that your “no” will damage the relationship. Calm your fears. You’re doing the right thing, protecting your boundaries while teaching your leech an invaluable lesson.

• Don’t cave in to leeches’ ranting. Human leeches are accustomed to having their way. If they put up a fuss, feel free to ignore them. They’ll eventually stop whining and move on to someone else they can suck dry.

 Leeches ~Are ruled by the green eye monster within them.

 Seven steps to reduce your ego,

A Time for Earth Angels and Lightworkers

Earth_Angels_realmEarth Angels and other Light Workers, despite their peace loving nature, have a very important job to do that isn’t always an easy one. It takes an extremely strong, disciplined, and highly developed Soul to fill those shoes and without them, mankind would be at a serious disadvantage!

Most Light Workers have a nostalgic memory difficult to put their finger on, a longing to return back somewhere, like an invisible family they’ve not seen in ages. In the back of their minds they may inwardly feel a desire somewhat related to E.T phoning home.

Long ago, many of them were very happy in their realm and were recruited specifically for their ability to handle some of the evolutionary problems of the lower planes. Many of them had reached levels of divinity, light and love that, in a word, retired them to a plane on the Other Side where there exists no real need, intention or desire for those Souls to ever want to seek out and return to the lower realms of chaos. They are those who, under any amount of duress, will follow through to the end and sacrifice doing whatever is necessary for the higher good to save and avert a movement that would be devastating to all.

When there are virtual movements of Tsunami-like waves of motion that could bring these lower realms to the edge; a place that can virtually wipe out eons of progress and alter mass involvement to an extent it virtually ricochets outwards on a universal scale to other realms, they understand and submit to a time where intervention is simply a must and leave their spirit home.

Along their journey and in returning to a plane where they are driven much more in spirit, they may find that the lack of physical or material drive makes them feel almost euphorically optimistic with only a sense of their bigger picture and calling. They may feel only different in some way. Eventually, though, the hour strikes with visions, dreams and other directive forces waking them gradually to sensations and accuracies difficult to ignore.

As each Soul stirs, other Earth Angels and Light Workers begin feeling the emerging in a collective sense. You see others were called and made the pilgrimage as well. Why is it only during these times or uncanny circumstances we tend to find eachother? Because, had we not, the same collective that emerges in waking would have instantly consumed us with a knowing so similar to the home we left, we would have never reached the lands we were meant to in returning to this plane in the first place.

(article by Elleise – Psychic Intuitive and Spiritual Counselor MS)

The child you once were still lives.

Allow and express your inner child … Love your  inner child like you would love a child you created. You would protect and fight to the death for your own child and this inner you, is your child. Give birth to yourself. Let your child come out and play now and again. It is o.k. to play with toys, colour, run bare foot around the garden, play on the park, jump up and down, lick your partners face, shove an hair up the nose of the person that’s sitting next to you, Let your self be very silly and carefree. If you can do all this, you are so on your way to taking the power out of those that wont let you be , gaining control over the child within you again Its really good for your soul., not allowing any person to make you unhappy or sad, or have any power over your feelings . AS OF NOW YOU ARE NO LONGER A VICTIM , YOU ARE A VERY PROUD SURVIVOR!!! LET  YOUR INNER child out try it now.

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