IT’S HARD TO BE HAPPY WHEN WE’RE SCARED!
There’s too much aggression in this world because we find it hard to cope with the frustration we feel when things don’t go our way, in the way we want them to. Where much of our time is fruitlessly spent trying to feel as though we have some sense of power over what happens to us and our life! But by the time we realise we’ve done it the wrong way it’s too late, as we are too old, too ill, or have lost our enthusiasm for life challenges, because we’ve burnt ourselves out trying to control the uncontrollable world we live in!
Happiness comes from within our being. And even though other people and things can stimulate that happiness feeling, they cannot give it to us any more than we can give it to them! So why do we constantly strive to seek out other people that we think can make us happy? They can’t! They can only help us to believe the world is going the way we would like it to be, that is the thing that makes us feel safe, and it’s the feeling of being secure that allows us to feel happiness!
When we’re scared it’s difficult to be happy because we increase our anxiety by constantly being on alert for things that prove we are, or are not safe. We watch the world through spy glasses that we believe have mind reading and psychic powers that forewarn us when we’re at risk. We are reactive, which means that if our thoughts or feelings prompt us to do so, we take avoidance steps to keep ourself safe, and are ready to run to escape if necessary.
The problem is our thinking and feelings get distorted when we are scared. And even though our warning thoughts may seem true, accurate and real to us, they may just be a figment of our imaginary fear-filled mind! Where we can end up living life in isolation because we don’t realise just how deep we’ve hidden ourself away behind our protective shields. But it’s never too late to change if we’ve got the courage to try!
There is so much anger, frustration, death and misery energy being projected on to us from the media as world events are brought to our attention, where virtually every soul on this earth is being negatively affected in some way by something out of their control. And most of us are scared about our unpredictable future at the moment. So what can we do when our fear rises and we want to scream out ‘What’s going to happen to me or my loved ones next?’ as we struggle to pay bills we can’t afford and manage the chaotic changes that are being forced upon us by life, government and nature?
We have to change! We have no other option, as strategies we’ve used in the past to make ourself feel better will not work for us in the future. Life will take care of itself – nature will ensure that! So we have to look for other ways of finding inner happiness. Happiness is within us all the time, but we block signals to it by the busyness of our mind. So it might be to our benefit to start looking for happiness feelings inside of us – even though we’ve got other stuff going on, as then we may be able to generate enough good feelings into our conscious awareness to make us feel better!
This means we have to deliberately focus our attention and mind on the task of finding our happy feelings, meaning we have to look within us for that silent whisper of joy, that has lost it’s voice because it has been drowned out by our panic and worry. And even though it seems hard at first, as maybe there is hardly a whisper at all, the law of attraction demands that what we give our attention to grows, so the more we look, the clearer and more stronger the route to happiness feelings will become!
Many feel over-burdened by life at the moment, where sitting quietly and calming our turbulent mind and emotions is the last thing we want to do, as the adrenalin inside agitates us on all levels. But we need to rest our mind and body. We need to find a place of peace inside that we can run to when the going gets tough, where we can regenerate our energy and regain our perspective. And eventually, once we know we can gain an element of control over our emotions and mind, we will start to feel more secure in the knowing that when we need to, we can, and then just maybe we will feel happier than before!
May you have good luck, love and joy on your journey of self-discovery, and if you need further help, please feel free to check out my web site!
Written by Chrissie Batten for spiritguides.co.uk
- How to be Happy (mediumsworld.wordpress.com)
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