Personal Growth Starts With The Self Image

There are many articles and pieces of information about personal growth and  the self image, most of which help the  reader to push forward in life and make important changes if they can. Many  times however changes are only temporary and we very quickly resort to our old  ways. One thing I have learned about personal growth is it is sometimes  difficult to take on board all the information that is available, partly because  of the sheer quantity of it and partly because it’s big business  and there always seems to be a new way of doing something. It’s hard to  keep abreast of the latest product or idea.

higher selfI am writing this article to introduce you to some beneficial ideas that I  have learned about personal growth and in particular the self image over the  last ten years or so. I have put these ideas into practice and have had huge  successes, although initially I found it hard going. I hope you benefit too.

All your actions, feelings and emotions are consistent with your self image.  By the way your self image was forced upon you when you were a child. The  environment and people you grew up with formed the image of yourself while you  were very small and impressionable. Of course you did have some say in the  matter as you grew older but your basic self image was formed when you were very  young. This means of course you are not responsible for any feelings and beliefs  you now have since you didn’t intentionally create them! However the good news  is, now that you are an adult, you can redesign the image of yourself and  therefore your life, exactly the way you want it!

So then, the self image can be changed. Positive thinking doesn’t help  because it is external. If you change your self image everything else has to  change too. Your whole life has to be consistent with your new image. In each  person there is a ‘life instinct.’ We all want more life, more health, more  happiness and success. In Maxwell Maltz book ‘Psycho-Cybernetics’ he describes  this life instinct as a ‘creative mechanism’ which if used correctly becomes a  ‘success mechanism.’ This mechanism must have goals to work on. These goals are  of course mental images created by your imagination. Your number one goal should  be your self image. He says ” Our self image prescribes the limits for the  accomplishment of any particular goal. It prescribes the area of the possible.”  So then you must visualise and act out new action patterns. You must act as if  you are wealthy, successful and the person you want to be.

Most people unfortunately still are unable to put the previous paragraph into  practice – I was one of them – and achieve what they want out of life therefore  the following information is for them.

Your self image is created in two ways. Both are crucial to your success. The  first is A BELIEF IN YOUR ABILITIES. This part of your image can be changed  easily by rational thought. If you are not able to do something then go out and  learn how to do it. This new confidence will help you achieve your goals. You  can do or learn absolutely anything to be the sort of person you want to be.  Since this part of your self image needs you to actually get up and learn a new  skill or become more knowledgeable about a particular topic, to help you become  the person you want to be, I don’t want to spend too long speaking about it.  It’s up to you! If you really want to achieve or become better at something or  be a certain type of person there is plenty of information on how to do it. The  internet is a fantastic resource to start with. Just do it!

The second way your self image is created is a belief borne out by how you  feel EMOTIONALLY about yourself. Your self image has to be consistent with how  you feel about yourself emotionally. This emotional charge can be very powerful  depending on how you were treated as a child.

For example….when you were a child, if you asked your mother to help you  with a game or some painting you were doing and she said ‘No, I’m too busy,’ the  emotional content of that statement would of had a huge influence on your self  image. Let me explain. If she said it with a smile and a soft voice then that  would have had a positive effect on your self image. However, if she said it  harshly with a scowl on her face that would of had a negative effect on your  self image. It is the emotional content of what she said rather than the answer  itself that makes the difference. As a child you would have experienced many  such episodes, some good, some bad. Hopefully the good would have outweighed the  bad. If you have a negative self image which has been formed in this way you  will not be able to improve it by rational argument. By the way people who have  a negative image of themselves, formed in this way, put everybody else first all  the time, believing that they are unimportant. They believe that they don’t  deserve very much from life. We all know somebody like that.

As we grow up these emotionally charged incidence have less of an effect on  us. Psychologists tell us up to 5 years old is the period we are most  susceptible to this type of self image formation, however we are still  susceptible up to the age of about 12 years old.

So why can’t we just change things?

If we now know that having a low self image due to emotional events while we  were growing up is holding us back, why can’t we just change those feelings to  more resourceful ones?

Well these feelings and emotions were formed by emotional events during your  childhood, and the belief you have about yourself is buried deep in the  subconscious mind. If you were aware of every feeling, every emotion, every  thought, then you could change things into something more resourceful. However  this level of awareness would put you in the zen monk category. I talk about  this on my website below.

For the majority of people this just isn’t going to happen. The subconscious  mind doesn’t care if you are unhappy or poor or lonely. The subconscious mind is  concerned with your survival. Your  internal world was formed while you were young and it was formed in such a way  that it gave you the greatest amount of safety and security.

For example….while you were growing up, you learned that water is safe to  drink but dangerous to fall into, likewise, electricity powers a light bulb and  gives you light so you can read but is extremely dangerous to touch.

Your subconscious does not want to change any of this information because  doing so might be dangerous to you. Likewise the self image formed from  emotional events and deeply ingrained in your subconscious is part of you and  must stay there to keep you safe as far as your subconscious is concerned. Your  earliest experiences gave your subconscious mind enough data to build up a  picture of who you are and how much you are worth. If your self image is such  that it believes that you are a failure your subconscious mind will have you act  in such a way as to fulfill this belief every single time!

So how do we improve this part of your self image?

Your subconscious created it so you could be as safe and secure as possible  when you were young, given the circumstances you had to deal with. We can  improve it very easily by doing something that most people are familiar with but  unfortunately don’t do properly and that is of course by goal setting.(more information on my website below) By goal  setting correctly we immediately give the subconscious mind something positive  to work on.

If you remember, I said that this part of your self image only responds to  the emotional content of your perceived world. This is the reason you have the  kind of self image that you have now. Therefore it is important to realise that  this part of your self image will only RESPOND TO EMOTION ONCE AGAIN. This is  why you must IMAGINE and VISUALISE what you want. You must get EXCITED about  every aspect of it. If you don’t get excited then you must choose another goal.  Unfortunately people try to make their goals ‘realistic’ in terms of what their  present self image tells them they are capable of.

For example….the person who wants the million dollar mansion but settles  for the 200K one because his present self image tells him he has to be  ‘realistic.’ It is this very ‘realistic’ self image that has kept him down in  the first place! If he kept imagining and visualising what he really wants, and  gets excited about it, the subconscious mind HAS TO bring the opportunities that  will help him acquire his million dollar mansion! This is the way Universal Law  works!

If people would only realise that the subconscious will make all their dreams  come true if they believed this to be the case. Doing little action steps  towards each goal on a daily basis will keep you positive and looking forward.  If this was done by everyone we would all be completely in charge of our own  lives and less dependent on government, welfare and outside influences.

It is such a pity that the subconscious mind is prevented from achieving  anything that you really want because the conscious mind judges everything by  what the eye and ear reports to be true, much of which is only perception with  no real truth. Personal growth is all about the self image and awareness. While  most people may never be fully aware they can certainly work on dreams and  goals. They can visualise and imagine how achieving them would feel. They can  become excited by the mental images. If they are persistent over time, and small  steps towards your goals are achieved, self image will improve and you will  become more confident. These small successes snowball into bigger ones and  before you know it you have achieved your largest long term goals. I wish you  huge dreams and success!

Maxwell  –    About the Author:Maxwell Hill is author of Ultimate Wealth Made Easy.To achieve what you want from life and improve your self image at  the same time you must   goal set properly.  Copyright: You may freely republish this article  provided the author, text, active links and this notice remain intact.

About Joanne Wellington

Joanne is: Author, intuitive and founder of a network of sites and blogs dedicated to helping you define, refine and achieve your grandest dreams! For empowering tips, articles and resources, visit https://joannewellington.wordpress.com/ , http://mediumsworld.wordpress.com/ and begin your transformation today! Joanne always says...I don't care how much money you make, what colour your skin is, where you live, what you drive, whether you're gay or straight, fat or thin, tall or short, beautiful or average. If you're my friend, I love you dearly, and that is ALL that counts! Positivity is free for the taking, inspiration awaits only to be recognized and confidence is always encouraged, her mission at Mediums World ,World of Inspiration is to inform, to inspire and empower people to be their best, both personally and professionally.

Posted on July 30, 2011, in Family, General, Health, Mediumship, New age, Philosophy, Spiritual and tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , . Bookmark the permalink. 7 Comments.

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