~The pain of leaving a relationship that is not serving it’s purpose is NOTHING compared to the pain of staying. When you leave, you set yourself FREE! When you stay, you give them permission to hurt you. Someone that chooses to hurt you, control you, own you, humiliate you, does not love you and when you stay or take them back again and again then YOU continue to hurt yourself. Be strong, love yourself, forgive yourself for the mistakes that keep you there and move on! Remember what makes you happy and do it! Say NO to them and YES to you! It’s not easy at first but it does get easier and is so so worth it, you’re worth it!~
Daily Archives: June 26, 2011
“When a man does not know what harbor he is making for, no wind is the right wind.”
“A person with a clear purpose will make progress on even the roughest road. A person with no purpose will make no progress on even the smoothest road.”
I believe each one of us is born with a unique purpose in life to fulfill. I believe there is a meaning to each one of our lives – that God does not create anything without reason. Purpose is what gives us a real sense of direction to our life. Without knowing our purpose, it is very easy to get sidetracked. Without purpose, we may be climbing the wrong ladder, and cutting down the wrong tree. Without purpose, we may be running very efficiently indeed, but headed in the opposite direction to where we really want to go!
As Henry David Thoreau said “Many wise men go fishing all of their life without knowing it is not fish they are after”. Having a purpose can mean the difference between making a living and making a life. Consistency of purpose is the secret of all successful people. Without a purpose, the actions we take and the goals we chase may not bring us fulfillment. Purpose is the why behind everything we do.
Here are the life purpose statements of some highly successful people:
“To uplift humanity’s consciousness through business”
-D.C Cordova – cofounder of the Excellerated Business school
“To humbly serve the Lord by being a loving, playful, powerful, and passionate example of the absolute joy that is available to us the moment we rejoice in God’s gifts and sincerely love and serve all of his creations.”
-Anthony Robbins, self-help guru
“To leave the world a better place than I found it, for horses and for people”
-Monty Roberts, author of “the man who listens to Horses”
“To create and inspire one million millionaires who each give $1 million to their church or charity”
-Mark Victor Hansen, coauthor of the “Chicken soup of the soul” series
How can we discover our life purpose?
The joy that we experience in doing certain activities is the real key to discovering our life purpose. Joy is our inner guidance system. An activity that is aligned with our purpose gives us immense joy. A person who is doing what is true to his purpose if often willing to do it even if he does not get paid for the work, as the satisfaction from the work is itself enough compensation for the work done.
Think of all of the times since childhood when you were inspired and really joyful. What were you doing then? How were you feeling? What was common in all the life experiences that gave you immense joy? Chances are that your purpose has something to do with those experiences. Also you can attempt to find your life purpose in meditation. After a session of meditation, ask yourself “What is the purpose of my life?”, “What am I here to do?” Allow the answer to come to you.
A purpose needs to mention not only what we will do and achieve, but also how our life will impact people around us. “Making a million dollars” can be a personal goal – it is however not a purpose, as it does not include other people in the statement.
Some questions you can ask yourself to find out about your purpose:
- What work would you do, which you enjoy so much that you would be happy even if you did not get paid for it?
- What does your heart long to do?
- Who are you? Are you an athlete? An artist? An scientific mind? A businessman? A rockstar?
- What do you love to become in your future?
- What would you love to learn?
- If there is something that you would teach, what would it be?
- What drives you? love? peace? adventure? security?
- What do you what to experience in this life?
“Purpose” is different from “goal”
Many times, people take “purpose” and “goal” to be one and the same. They are not one and the same. Here are the differences:
- A goal is something that you attain one day, after striving towards it for sometime. Purpose is something that you are, because of which you have the drive to get up each morning and do what you want to do.
- Your goal is one of your destinations, whereas purpose is your journey.
- Attainment of goals/dreams is the effect, your purpose is the drive/cause.
- Your goal gives you some direction, whereas purpose gives you something greater – a meaning for your life, without which even attained goals may not satisfy you for long.
Does our life purpose have to be grand?
It is not necessary that each one of us need to define a life purpose that has plans to change the whole world. Each of us has unique talents, skills, and drives. – we experience joy in doing different things. When you are on purpose, you become the best possible you, and only you know what makes you the best you.
Can a life purpose change?
Absolutely. We are all growing bigger and better each day. As we grow, so will our life purpose. Define your life purpose, and expect to refine it along the way.
I highly encourage you to think about your life purpose Getting clarity of purpose will greatly enhance the quality of your life. It will guide you in making many important decisions as your life unfolds, and will bring your much success, joy and fulfillment.
We are creatures of habit. Our minds are conditioned by past impressions. We keep following in our old ways until the cycle of ignorance is broken by constant awareness of ourselves. This is why we need constant reminders. Knowledge needs to seep into our sub-conscious mind in order for it to become useful to us. This is precisely why in the Vedic scriptures, three levels of attaining knowledge are prescribed:
- Shravanam (Listening)
- Mananam (Contemplating upon knowledge)
- Nidhi Dhyasa (Practicing the knowledge)
A lot of people read/listen to inspirational material for the temporary relief that it brings. When you are feeling low, positive thoughts make you feel better. It gives you hope. Inspirational material asserts that the way you are currently looking at things is not the only way to look at it – that there is a much more positive solution to your problem out there, which you may not be seeing in this moment. However reading inspirational writings only to feel better is limiting the value you can derive from it – it is like using an aeroplane to drive around in your neighbourhood, which you could be flying to a neighbouring state!
Mananam (Contemplating upon the knowledge)
Contemplating upon the knowledge means reflecting upon the knowledge to see how it is applicable in the context of our lives. Contemplating of knowledge is understanding the intricacies of the knowledge, and making the knowledge ours. Without contemplation, we are less likely to fully appreciate the real power of the piece of wisdom being discussed.
Nidhi Dhyasa (Practicing the knowledge)
Then, you may find that some people are able to speak beautifully about a certain piece of wisdom. They have understood it really well. They can analyse it, discuss it with others, and even challenge opposing views. However the appreciation of the knowledge is only from an intellectual perspective. They may not have made any effort to apply the knowledge in their own lives. This is akin to a doctor who advises his patients on the ill effects of smoking, but is a chain smoker himself.
Why does a person who fully understands a piece of wisdom unable to apply it in his life?
One possibility is that the person learnt the knowledge only to derive some intellectual pleasure from it. He had no real thirst for self-improvement. The second possibility is that his mind, thanks to various past habits, is rebelling against his own intellect and making him incapable of applying the knowledge he knows very well. For example – the person knows that reacting in anger does not help. However this knowlege comes to him only after he has already reacted in anger and then later regrets his act. This is why, in addition to just gaining knowledge, it is also necessary to quieten the mind with meditation. A quiet mind can grasp the knowledge better and is more capable of applying the knowledge when it is needed. Meditation also helps the mind to become more contemplative.
It takes regular and continuous effort to put something new that we learn to practice – as our own mind rebels against us and wants to keep going about it’s old and comfortable ways. However all the effort we put into ourselves comes with a big payoff. There comes a stage where the application of knowledge becomes natural and effortless, and brings about a positive, lasting transformation within us.
~ Sudhir krihnan
To realize the value of a sister/brother
ask someone who doesn’t have one.
To realize the value of ten years:
ask a newly divorced couple.
To realize the value of four years:
ask a graduate.
To realize the value of one year:
ask a student who has failed a final exam.
To realize the value of nine months:
ask a mother who gave birth to a stillborn.
To realize the value of one month:
ask a mother who has given birth to a premature baby..
To realize the value of one minute:
ask a person who has missed the train, bus or plane.
To realize the value of one-second:
ask a person who has survived an accident.
Time waits for no one.
Treasure every moment you have.
You will treasure it even more when
you can share it with someone special.
To realize the value of a friend or family member:
The origin of this letter is unknown,
but it brings good luck to everyone who passes it on.
Hold on tight to the ones you love and TO THOSE THAT LOVE YOU BACK…THE REST, BID THEM FAREWELL!~